Her ‘soul crushing’ childhood still haunts her – the TV star talks about her mom’s tragic addiction and mental health struggles

She burst onto TV screens as a young, blonde woman with a charm that captivated everyone. But behind the scenes, her life was anything but glamorous.

Abandoned by her drug-addicted mother, she was left to fend for herself and her siblings, surviving on food stamps. As if that wasn’t enough, she would later face a life-threatening battle with cancer.

Curious to know who this inspiring figure is?

Keep reading for a truly captivating story of survival and resilience…

Hollywood may seem like a place where fame runs in the family, but for this remarkable woman, life was anything but glamorous.

Born in 1961 in sunny Santa Monica, this famous woman’s childhood was far from the picture-perfect dream. Her parents were high school sweethearts deeply in love. However, two years later, her mother sent her and her sisters to live with their paternal grandmother. The TV star’s grandmother was a hard-working, coupon-clipping cafeteria worker who managed to create a warm and joyful home, always filled with the comforting scent of something freshly baked.

But soon, everything changed.

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Drug addiction

After four years, the mother reappeared with a new husband, and the family relocated to Washington, where life spiraled into chaos.

At just 11 years old, the future TV personality found herself thrust into the role of caretaker for her four younger siblings. Her mother, Vicky, was not only physically abusive but also a prescription drug addict who spent most days in bed.

The TV star was left to manage cooking, cleaning, and schoolwork for the family while scraping by on welfare and food stamps. With limited money, even a few dollars could mean the difference between eating or going hungry for the last days of the month.

”On the way home [from the store], I had to ride very carefully so that the full plastic bags hanging from my handlebars wouldn’t swing and break the eggs,” she shared in her memoir.

In later interviews, she shared how embarrassing it was to go to the store and pull out the book of food stamps.

”I remember standing in line at the grocery store with the food stamps and it was mortifying for me, because the girl – she was like the popular girl in school – [and] her parents were the rich family [and] they owned the dairy,” the star recalled while speaking with Daily Mail in 2024.

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Raking leaves and picking berries

But despite all the struggles and challenges, the young girl tried to make the best of her situation. And perhaps it was during these tough times that her creativity, work ethic, and entrepreneurial spirit were born — the very qualities that would later propel her to have her own TV show, become a producer, and author multiple books.

As a young teenager, she earned extra money however she could — raking leaves, picking berries, and even selling handmade potholders for $1 a pair.

Sadly, the real struggle came when she could no longer protect her siblings from their mother’s destructive behavior. One evening, after calling 911 when her mother swallowed a bottle of pills, things escalated. According to her memoir, her mother beat her so badly that her ”eyes were swollen” and her body was ”covered in welts.”

Her stepfather, who had moved back in, also crossed inappropriate lines, leaving behind wounds that were both physical and emotional.

Yet through it all, this future TV icon, who would one day become a household name.

Who is she?

And now, let’s unveil who we’re talking about…

If you haven’t guessed it yet – it’s Sandra Lee, the popular American television chef and home decorating specialist.

Many people likely recognize Sandra from the hit show Semi-Homemade Cooking, which premiered on Food Network in 2003. The series aired for 15 seasons and became incredibly popular, largely thanks to Sandra’s unique “semi-homemade” cooking concept, which she describes as using 70 percent packaged products and 30 percent fresh ingredients.

Her colorful personality and charm left a lasting impression, earning her a spot on Newsweek’s list of TV’s most successful female chefs. Now 58 years old, she has authored 27 books, and her show has been broadcast in 63 countries.

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On top of that, she’s launched her own production company and lifestyle magazine, showcasing just how multifaceted this vibrant chef truly is. In her trophy case, she boasts a Daytime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lifestyle/Culinary Show Host, won in 2012 for her work.

Much of Sandra’s inspiration came from her years spent with her grandmother. It was in her kitchen that Sandra’s passion for cooking and baking first ignited.

”My grandmother was a great cake baker and was fantastic with icings, and that was kind of her gift to everybody at her church. She would do the wedding cakes and she would do the baby shower cakes and she would do all the special birthday cakes, and she wouldn’t allow anybody to pay her for this,” Sandra says.

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As we’ve seen, Sandra definitely has a fascinating backstory, but her love life has also featured some hot and talked-about romances. In 2001, she married philanthropist Bruce Karatz, and during the marriage, Sandra converted to Judaism.

Life with Karatz was a far cry from the harsh reality of her upbringing. Suddenly, she found herself living in a mansion in Bel Air, driving a Mercedes, and holding season tickets to the Lakers. She attended parties on P Diddy’s yacht and vacationed in St. Tropez. Her friends included celebrities like Mary Hart, Arianna Huffington, and art consultant Barbara Guggenheim.

Sandra Lee launches her new cookbook “Semi-Homemade Desserts” at the St. Regis Hotel September 29, 2003 Century City, California. The event was hosted By Miramax Books in aid of Project Angel Food. (Photo by Giulio Marcocchi/Getty Images)

The marriage ended in 2005, and shortly after, Sandra began dating Andrew Cuomo, who would later serve as the Governor of New York.

The two met at a garden party, where Cuomo, fit and charming, arrived with his three daughters in tow, which immediately caught Sandra’s attention. Initially, she tried to set Cuomo up with some of her friends, as he was emerging from a difficult divorce from Kerry Kennedy.

However, it didn’t take long for both of them to realize they wanted to be together instead. They dated secretly for over a year, keeping their relationship under wraps from friends and family.

Eventually, the secrecy became too much, and they publicly acknowledged their romance, moving into Sandra’s home in Chappaqua, New York.Unlike her first marriage, Sandra noted that life with Cuomo was anything but glamorous.

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”We do not have full-time help,” she told New York Magazine and added: ”We are normal people. Our basement flooded this morning. Two weeks ago, the snow melted and came in between the floors, and we had buckets in the living room.”

When Cuomo became the 56th Governor of New York in 2011, Sandra took on the role of the state’s de facto first lady. While she largely maintained a low profile during most of his first two terms, she later emerged as a passionate advocate for cancer screening after her own battle with the disease.

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In 2015, Sandra Lee was diagnosed with breast cancer. Fortunately, the disease was caught early, but her journey to becoming cancer-free was filled with challenges.

She underwent both a lumpectomy and a double mastectomy, with Governor Cuomo by her side, taking time off to support her through this difficult period.

Unfortunately, she suffered an infection in one breast related to the surgeries, requiring her to be on intravenous drugs for three months. By the end of 2015, Sandra announced that she was cancer-free. However, in March 2022, she underwent a successful hysterectomy.

The breast cancer experience has undoubtedly been incredibly taxing for Sandra, but, as she has done many times before, she turned it into something constructive.

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During Cuomo’s governorship, she became a strong advocate for cancer awareness, pushing for the passage of the $91 million ”No Excuses” law in New York, which expanded breast cancer screening and eliminated insurance co-pays for mammograms.

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After more than a decade together, Sandra Lee and Andrew Cuomo announced that their relationship had come to an end.

“Over the recent past, we have realized that our lives have gone in different directions and our romantic relationship has turned into a deep friendship,” Mr. Cuomo and Ms. Lee, a Food Network personality and author, said in 2019.

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During her relationship with Cuomo, Sandra grew close to his three daughters from his marriage to Ms. Kennedy. While Sandra doesn’t have children of her own —a choice she has made — she has poured her love and resources into her siblings and their children. According to New York Magazine, she has generously provided for her relatives, gifting them cars, houses, hockey lessons, and even covering college tuition.

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Today, Sandra Lee is 58 years old, but looking at her recent photos, it’s hard to believe it. She still looks amazing and healthy and is always so timeless and classic.

As of 2024, Sandra Lee has been reported to be dating Algerian-born actor Abdulwahab Benyoucef, professionally known as Ben Youcef, since March 2021.

Excitingly, she is currently starring in a new show on Netflix, Blue Ribbon Baking Championship. The series aims to find the best bakers from state fairs across the country, as they compete for the coveted blue ribbon and a grand prize of $100,000. The series is something Sandra has wanted to do for a long time, and finally, Netflix took the plunge to make it happen.

”I presented the Blue Ribbon Baking Championship to Food Network all those years ago and they didn’t buy it and I was like, “Are you kidding me?” It was crazy, and I was like the hottest thing on that network at the time, and I just couldn’t believe it!,” she told Daily Mail.  

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In addition to her new series, Sandra is deeply involved with QVC’s Age of Possibility platform, which aims to empower women over the age of 50—a cause she is passionate about.

“I think what happens when you turn 50 is that you realize—if you’re lucky—you’re halfway through, if not more. Your body is changing, and you have to pay attention to all those things.”

Speaking with Daily Mail, Sandra was asked if she feels any stress or pressure to look good while on camera. In the appearance-focused world of Hollywood, it’s certainly a relevant question, but Sandra provided a great response.

”There’s a reason why we all like wash our face and put lotion on and put makeup on. I don’t think any of us are going down without a fight. I’m in the Cher camp – whatever makes you feel hot, do it!’”, she urged.

Reflecting on Sandra Lee’s fascinating life journey, it’s clear that her road to success is a tapestry of resilience, creativity, and dedication.

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From living on food stamps to her battle with breast cancer to her vibrant role as a culinary icon and advocate for women over 50, Sandra embodies the spirit of empowerment and positivity!

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