Ariel and her boyfriend were simply scraping through with bills to pay but really wanted to get married to each other.
While many women’s dream engagement scenarios include a ring they love and would be happy to wear for the rest of their life; believe it or not, for the majority of people, that’s not the most important thing when it comes to a proposal.
It’s the gesture of being asked by the man or woman they love to spend the rest of their lives together.
When a saleswoman tried to make fun of her poor husband for buying a cheap ring Ariel had an appropriate response.
”My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore [to get married], so we didn’t.
I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.”
But that feeling of happiness with what she had was dashed when the shop worker gave an incredible display of ignorance as the couple went to pay for the rings.
Another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us.
”She said, ‘Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic’.”
When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page.
He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again ‘Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?’ He was so upset at the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough. ”
Old Ariel would have ripped that woman a new one. Mature Ariel said: ‘It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes buying one that is.’”We bought the rings and left.
Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it
come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love??
My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.
But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.”
Thanks Ariel for sharing your story!
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