Man returns his bride-to-be’s dream wedding dress to respect his mom’s ‘vision’

A meddling mother-in-law is facing the fury of the online audience after she tried to hijack the wedding from her son and his wife-to-be.

The in-law-zilla had a “vision” for her only son’s wedding, and attempting to assert control, she overlooked the wants of the bride, and turned the wedding planning into “an absolute nightmare.”

A 29-year-old woman was looking for advice from Reddit users on how to approach her “intrusive” mother-in-law, who was trying to take control over her wedding day.

To make matters worse, her 33-year-old fiancé was siding with his mom, suggesting his bride consider his mother’s “vision” because he’s her only son.

“I hate to admit that wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare,” she writes. “His mom wasn’t willing to agree on most things, and my fiancé said that since he’s her only son then I should respect and appreciate this ‘vision’ she has for the wedding and how it should be.”

The original poster (OP) explains that her mother-in-law insisted she go wedding dress shopping with her friends and mother of the bride, where she continued to pressure the already stressed woman.


“I was so lucky to have found what I was looking for. but she picked a dress that she liked so much and said that ‘she always pictured her son’s bride in it.’” The post continues, “[My mom] and friends thought this line was creepy. I thought the dress was somewhat creepy and toooootally not my type. I apologized and thanked her for her ‘vision’ but told her that I’d already decided on a dress that I had ‘envisioned’ myself wearing at my wedding!”

Despite the bride’s diplomatic approach in reminding the pushy mother that it’s not her wedding, OP said she was quite upset.

“…must’ve told my fiancé because, he came home in the evening ranting about how I made his mom upset and ‘turned down’ her help…and excluded her from the process,” she writes.

Further sharing that it’s her wedding dress, she adds “so I really didn’t get how she should get a say at all! He got upset and said that this attitude of mine isn’t working on him or his mom.”

Attempting to rally the support of her son, the mother told him that “both dresses weren’t that much different anyway.”

“Yes they were different…so much different.”

After arguing, the topic was dropped… At least for that evening.


The next day, the bride-to-be had a big surprise waiting for her.

“I came home and found out that he had returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom wanted,” she writes.

Though her fiancé spoke openly and admitted to exchanging her dress, the OP refused to accept that she was expected to live out his mother’s vision on her dream wedding day.

“He asked me to calm down and really give this dress ‘a chance.’ I refused to even listen, I screamed at him without giving him a chance to speak.”

Hoping to defuse her anger, the OP said she spent the night at a friend’s place, fielding repeated texts and calls from her fiancé that said she “overreacted and it’s his wedding too so it wasn’t cool how I screamed at him.”

She explains he labored the point that it was his mother’s “vision” and that she “wants what’s best” for her future daughter-in-law.

Meanwhile, the OP’s mom is “livid” over her interference and wants to join the battle, though her father is being neutral, saying it’s not worth ruining her relationship with in-laws.


She asks, “Is it too much for me to be able to pick my own wedding dress without being guilted about it just to keep the peace?”

More than 35,000 users responded to her pleas for advice, the majority telling her the wedding dress is foretelling of their future together.

One writes that this “isn’t about the dress at all, it’s about your fiancé valuing his mother’s priorities, desires, and opinions over yours. And being unable to discuss that there’s a problem.”

A second chimes in with, “this is one of the most obvious divorce (don’t marry) posts we’ll see on here all month. Your fiancé has shown you very clearly that he will never respect you or choose you over his mother.”

“She’s going to try to dictate how you should live and how you should raise your children and your husband will go along with it no matter how idiotic it is because his mommy said so,” writes a third.

Other netizens joked about possible solutions.

“Tell him that the clown outfit was always your mom’s ‘vision’ so he has to do it,” quips one.

Adding to that, another cyber citizen says, “You understand, it’s the outfit my parents have always envisioned their daughter’s groom in…in fact, every day they ask me ‘Why are you marrying this clown?’”

There hasn’t been an update on the post so we are uncertain if the poster married this man, and if she did, we don’t know what dress she wore.

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